Friendship
A friend recently called me about a decision he was making. He was simply informing me, but in the course of the conversation, I said to him, “You are my friend, and I’ll support you the best that I can.” This man is certainly one that I admire and am thankful that he is my friend. His decision is an important one. Some will agree with his decision and some will disagree. Whatever the case may be, he is a friend; and I want that to be clear. He has been an encouragement to me personally, and I want to be the same to him.
In John 15:15, the Word of God says, “Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.” If friendship were to be likened to that of a developing flower, friendship would be the bloom of discipleship. Friendship is an end to which true Biblical discipleship leads. We see this here in the ministry of our Lord. Considering this, here are some thoughts about friendship:
1. Friendship is developed.
The Lord said, “Henceforth.” This shows to us that this friendship did not simply begin here, but the process of their relationship together led to this point. You know, in times of trouble, it is good to have true friends. Christ was certainly facing a troubling time; but He had his friends. This friendship was developed.
What is required in order to develop this friendship? It is something I call FACE–TIME. Both words are important. In our technologically-driven society, there is not much time spent face-to-face. We are more apt to use social media and some form of messaging to communicate; but I submit to you that if we desire to develop friendship, we must spend time with people face-to-face. God recognizes this as a quality of friends when He says, “And the Lord spake unto Moses face to face, as a man speaketh unto his friend…” [Exodus 33:11]. Media is no substitute for face-to-face time.
The second operative word is TIME. We see this consistently through the ministry of the LORD. He spent time with those whom He is now calling friends. If we are to develop friendships, it will require our time and effort to do so.
2. Friendship means disclosure.
In verse fifteen the Lord says, “…I have made know unto you.” Yes, of course, there are boundaries that should not be crossed; but what we do during our face-to-face time is important. We should communicate with each other. We should work to be genuine and transparent.
Specifically-speaking here, Jesus was making known to His friends what God the Father had made known to Jesus. Preachers do this on a regular basis in the public forum; but what about speaking to your friends about something other than the football game? Why not speak to them about what God has spoken to you about from His Word? Why not spend time talking to your friends about what the Lord has taught you in the intimacy of your private time with Him?
3. Friendship means devotion
Both verses thirteen and seventeen of this chapter show this to us. There are two levels to consider. Friendship means devotion to each other. The Lord said, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” This is the kind of devotion we should show to each other.
Secondly, our devotion should be WITH each other. In verse seventeen, the Lord teaches them that the world will hate them. In John seventeen, Jesus prayed for their unity. As friends, we should be devoted to each other and with each other. We should work together to accomplish what the LORD has called us to do in preaching the Gospel to every creature.
Friendship is a beautiful thing; but it must be developed. Friendship means that you do make yourself vulnerable through disclosure, and friendship requires devotion.








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